Psychotherapy can be defined as a partnership where both therapist and client agree on shared goals, work together on tasks designed to bring a positive outcome, and establish a relationship built on trust, acceptance, and empathy.

Thinking of seeing a therapist? Well welcome to the journey of self-discovery, growth and we wish to congratulate you for making such an amazing choice.

Kindly note that, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, resilience and personal growth are some of the passive goals will benefit from therapy.

Remember as you seek professional help, you must take this journey as seriously as you can because this is all about your life and you can’t afford to play around with your life unless if you don’t treasure your life but since you know that you do, we want you to reflect deeply as you take this bold step that will transform your Life and ask yourself the following:

  1. What is it that i want to change about my life?
  2. What goals do I want to achieve in therapy?
  3. How will my life be different if these goals were achieved?

So possibility is there that you may have been discouraged by someone or have ahead of someone saying therapy doesn’t work or you are doubting if therapy is even effective.

Well it’s okay to have doubts about the effectiveness of therapy and oh yes it’s also possible someone tried therapy and they didn’t find effective but the opposite is also true, therapy really does work and millions of people have been helped across the globe. So how can you get the best out of therapy?


A therapist’s level of education and work experience usually gives a strong indication on how effective they are, remember they have been in the game for years and years, they have attended to several cases repeatedly and they have vast experience with various issues and perfected the art of therapy over time.

Remember that you seek therapy, you have the autonomy to choose a Therapist/Counsellor you are comfortable with either Male or Female to attend to you. Some therapists are specialized to work with certain issues e.g. Substance Abuse, Depression, Anxiety or specific groups e.g. Adolescents, Couples, Families and or Groups. It’s always best to see a therapist who has vast experience relating to what you are struggling with, even though we have a lot of general practitioners who are very good at their work but ultimately we will assign you the best therapist/Counsellor.


Therapy is progressive treatment and highly collaborative in nature, therefore be prepared to have several sessions before you think of withdrawing or stopping. Remember that as a client, the frequency of sessions are very critical on how much progress you make in therapy. Too frequent sessions will confuse you and overwhelm you more because you won’t have enough time to reflect on what you are doing in therapy and won’t have enough time to work through the tasks, activities and assignments from the previous seasons especially that you are likely to have an assignment, tasks, activity as home work in almost each visit you have with your therapist.

On the other hand, too spaced sessions will make it very difficult for you to achieve the progress needed to encourage you continue with therapy and reach your set goals. After your first or second sessions, your therapist will guide you on the number and frequency of sessions. Kindly note that you are likely to have frequent sessions in the beginning which will later be spaced up as you progress towards your goals in therapy.


Therapy assignments, activities and tasks are done in the session or given as home work. Therapy assignments, activities and or tasks are cumulative, therefore any incomplete assignments, activity and or tasks is likely to affects your progress in therapy.

During the session we usually focus on behavioral rehearsal and it’s your responsibility as a client to implement session activities in real life if you are to see the difference and we call this behavioral activation. The more time you dedicate to working on your therapy assignments, the quicker your recovery process will be. From my personal experience, clients who prioritize assignments and tasks usually get the best out of the therapy, therefore I want to urge you to go an extra mile to do what you and the therapist have agreed upon all the time.

Remember that therapy is highly collaborative, therefore you have autonomy in the therapy room to suggest to your therapist on what issues to focus on with guidance from your therapist and you will never be pushed around or pressured to prioritize therapy or working on specific issues but your therapist will encourage and guide you and explain why it’s very important for you to prioritize therapy and all related therapy activities and tasks.

Written for Thrive Wellness Hub Solutions by

Benjamin Samusiko

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